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Monday, 18 June 2012

There's more to life than pleasing men?! What a revelation, Cosmo...

I'm a total magazine junkie. I guess with doing whatever it is that I do it is important to keep up to date with what is going on with these things. I have pretty much encyclopedic knowledge of high-brow popular culture (if there is such a thing) and current fashion trends, which may or may not ever come in useful. Apart from my weekly Grazia  and monthly Glamour, any extras that I buy will be due to either the cover star, or the free gift. Or on a particularly lucky occasion, both. This therefore explains why I purchased July's Cosmopolitan as it was a double word score with both an awesome free gift (aviators and bubble gum) and my girl crush of the moment Zooey Deschanel was on the cover.

So far so good yes?

But then this is where things started to go slightly awry. A good magazine hit for me usually compromises a humorous roundup of current goings on, glamourous and exotic photo shoots, an interview with an inspirational and/or interesting celebrity, a few tips on how to look/feel good/dress for the season and maybe a few letters from readers, discussing a mutual topic from the previous issue. Throughout these issues, in my experience there is usually very little to no mention of 'how to please a man' or 'a man's point of view of what looks good on women' and this is just fine. I'd always been under the apparently naive impression that these magazines were by women, for women and whose primary purpose was to create a supportive community of intelligent, witty, style-conscious independent women who have no interest in 'pleasing' men. 

Bearing this in mind, you can appreciate my surprise when flicking through the above issue of Cosmo and an overwhelming proportion of the content was centered around men, and their opinions on women's fashion, what looks good and what they like. Here are some examples that I picked out of just one single issue of a regular copy:

So 'men' is now a competitive sport is it?

It' not very clear here, but the bit with Daniel Radcliffe is a little Q&A of 'what men find attractive' amongst other little tips on how to attract a male, all under the genious title 'Manthropology.' Whoever thought of that little beauty deserves a pay rise. 

Yet more information about fashion trends that men like. 

And the icing on the cake came in an interview with Zooey Deschanel, where 'there's more to life than pleasing men' is declared as if it is some sort of revelation that we have all been waiting for. I'm not sure about you but I'd managed to work that one out on my own. 

So there you have it. What do you guys think? Do you generally find that a  lot of female-centred media is geared towards how to attract a man, or is this issue of Cosmo just an anomaly? I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. 


Thursday, 14 June 2012

Getting a Job Don Draper Style

So my lovely job where I basically get adoring compliments showered on me and unconditional love and occasionally even cake, is coming to an end and after a fun-filled summer of frolicking around I'm actually going to have to get a real job. I know, I'm petrified. I feel like my career is something that is so important to me and holds the key to such a large proportion of my happiness, yet no one is going to give me the chance to fulfill this void in my life unless I go out and get it for myself. And this is where it causes problems. I hate asking for things but I'm slowly learning that generally if you don't ask- especially in the world of employment- then you don't get. So naturally in scenarios such as this, I turn to my moral compass and spirit guide for all things life-related and watched some TV. Now maybe I am setting my expectations a little high given that my Grey's Anatomy and Mad Men role models all have fairly successful careers, but Don Draper certainly taught me a thing or two about chasing your dreams.

What would Don Draper do?

Over the course of the series, we have gradually been able to piece together how DD made the momentous transition from depression-era-Illinois-farm-boy-son-of-a-prostitute to the most suave man you will ever see. I think we can all agree that that is no mean feat, and a large proportion of this success can be attributed to the fact that he has some serious nerve. Now I'm not suggesting that I (or anyone else for that matter) should get a prospective employer indecently drunk and then turn up at their office the next day pretending that they offered you a job (though if anyone ever does do this, I'd love to hear from you) but I think we could all take a leaf from Don's book. He knows what he wants, makes it his mission to get it, and he gets it. So from this I am going to assume that anyone who ever tries to do anything will eventually get it if they have the nerve or work hard enough, because if Don, a fictional superhuman, can do it, then so can anyone, right? Good, I'm glad we can all agree on that. 

So over the next few months, over the course of my job-hunting mission, I am going to  channel my inner Don Draper and go and get it. Peggy and Joan certainly know what they want, and they certainly get it. Peggy has pretty much clawed her way in, then acted like she belongs there, and no one has questioned it. And as for Joan, well, you find anyone who dares say no to her and I'll be one impressed woman. 

Another thing that may be something of a hindrance in my search for employment is that no matter how sparkling my application is, there will always be some do-gooder who is only 21 and has, like, found an alternative energy source or wiped out world hunger or something, when my greatest accolade is being able to relate every single thing ever to something that happened in a TV programme. 

So if I do ever pull a Don Draper, then I wouldn't mind having this girl's job 

I know her boss was horrible, but I'm still convinced that I could have done a better job than her and then I would've become Miranda Priestly's prodigy or something and it would've been awesome. 

Or I would work for either of these guys:

So what do you guys think? Are you a go-getter? (and has this worked out for you?) or do you prefer for your work to speak for itself and hope that people notice? And does anyone know of any jobs where it is the primary goal to just relate all things ever to a TV programme? Because if so, those guys need me.